the GAME
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TOUGH LOVE®
It's not a Dopamine Game
What is TOUGH LOVE®?
TOUGH LOVE® is a game to make you see through the game. It is a questions based Card Game, and can be played in various settings:
Group
Two People
Solo
Who is this game for?
For lovers, and for the fearful interested in beginning to love.
For the disconnected interested in beginning to connect; separated interested in beginning to integrate.
Broken interested in beginning to heal.
Home-less interested in beginning to root; lost interested in beginning to belong.
Trapped interested in beginning to find a way out.
Teachers, students, parents, children, researchers, thinkers, philosophers, poets…
In particular, those interested in living may find this Game helpful.
DETAILS, please
THE SIX ROOMS
In the game, you will move from one room to another.
Rooms are not as you would have in your house – walled enclosures, strict boundaries. Ah, no! Sorry.
Think of these more as seasons. Flowing in and out of each other, merging and converging. Unapologetically.
Think of these more as rhythms. The dawn and the morning and the noon and the dusk... flowing in and out of the day, commingling and coalescing, dancing to the cosmic beats.
There are six rooms representing six stages of your love affair.
You may say love affair with whom?
You will say that and you will not find the answer written anywhere.
You will say that again and you will hear the question inside you, echoing - love affair with whom?
If there is enough silence, you will hear a voice – How do you separate love, love?
Love for this, love for that. Love for him, love for her.
You are here, the fruit of love for life, having a love affair with life. Life itself.
You have a thing for life, no?
There are six rooms representing six stages of your love affair.
You could say love affair with your lover. Your romantic lover. Yes, that’s right.
You could say love affair with life. You could say love affair with the creation itself.
You could say love affair with God Himself.
You may fall in this love. Careful!
You may fall in this love irretrievably. Watch out!
May you fall in this love! May you fall in this love irretrievably! May all your care be thrown to the winds!
May you be consumed by this all-consuming love!
Amen!
WAIT, WHAT ABOUT THE ROOMS? AREN’T THERE ANY LEVELS?
Oh, no, there are no ‘levels’ of rooms! No climbing, no achievements; no hierarchy, no rewards.
No race, no points.
This is not a dopamine game, remember?
The evening is not higher than the morning. The evening is not lower than the night.
There are no levels.
You don’t need achievements to move from the morning to the evening. You don’t need points to climb to the peak of the night.
Ride, ride the tides love, the rhythms are young!
what is inside THE ROOMS?
how to play?
THE SHORT ANSWER
the long answer
The questions are in a sequence; the back of each card is numbered. Keep the deck upside down, and start by picking the topmost card – voila, there you go!
Oh, and yes, you have to answer before you pick up the next one.
From the footer of some cards, you’ll be guided to a stack of The White Cards. There, you’ll experience a Tough Kiss, sometimes, a Holding of Hands, and sometimes you’ll find yourself looking in a Mirror. Bonne chance with what you have landed yourself in!
Least interested in your periphery, the questions will shoot for your core.
Should two people be interested in getting to know their deeper compatibility, they can keep matching answers (agreements) on one side and unmatching ones (disagreements) on the other. Or, they might keep dealmakers on one side and dealbreakers on the other. However, be warned, many of these questions won’t offer a simple this or that.
It’s mostly a game quite demanding on your faculty of reflection; strongly depending on your ability to see 'what is what' as it is, free from all prejudices, fears, insecurities or dependences; your ability to be straightforward, and honest with yourself.
That is, it’s mostly a game for the one earnest enough to seek truth, and daring enough to hear it.
There is no mollycoddling in the cards, no tapdancing around truth.
Can I get a sneak peek AT THE WHITE CARDS?
can you speak to me more about it?
"Soaked in the essence of life running through all beings, the game touches your hands. Or, soaked in the essence of life running through all beings, your hands touch the game.
The questions are not mine. Nor yours. Life throws them at us, I embrace. Because I must.
I share, because I must.
At places, the questions may seem too direct, provocative or cheeky. It is because they are so.
Most of them are simple questions, ignored and dismissed; and buried to oblivion by their too-obviousness. No, not that. But because they challenge and dare us to our very core.
Oh, and they are not questions questions! At their heart there opens a space once you embrace them, like a beautiful but difficult beloved. The answers you are looking for might be dwelling there. Right at the heart of their questions.
While answering, try not to judge yourself or the other harshly. We are all born into the same way of life, more or less, subjected to the same set of rules. All of us struggling to make sense of all this, struggling to find a way out.
Please be kind.
It’s a long ride, you may want to buckle up.
May this game be a game changer for you all!"
— Rishi Miranhshah
(Creator of TOUGH LOVE®)
Most Frequently Asked Question
Q. Why should I play it?
A. Because you seek Truth and are Daring enough to hear it.